The Heart of Food is our foundational support program to soften anxiety, connect with your heart, and bring more ease into your relationship with food.
Where people often get stuck:
When you struggle with overeating, binge eating or have a painful relationship with food, there can be so much anxiety about what or how to eat. You can feel a painful lack of self trust – how do I trust myself to have a healthy relationship with food when I've never had a 'normal' relationship?
The relationship you have with food can start to color everything , seeping out to filter how you see yourself – your whole being.
This can create frustration, shame, and urgency – a feeling of, “I need to fix this now.” It can lead to feelings of stuckness, where you feel trapped in helplessness and collapse.
This was my experience – I had over 20 years of eating disorders – ranging from binge eating to sugar addiction to orthorexia. I've also worked with people for over 10 years now.
One of the keys to getting unstuck is healing your relationship with food: healing the relationship you have with what you're struggling with.
I've found three things that help shift this relationship, what
you'll learn in The Heart of Food:
Understanding the primary emotions and needs that drive food 'stuff.' There are a few primary emotions and key ways we use food to self soothe, care for stress, or to soften feelings of overwhelm. When you learn how some of these basic drives work and why you get stuck, you can soften the blame that says, “It's all my fault.”
THE KEY TAKEAWAY: Gaining insight into what's going on
underneath the food is grounding and calming. It gives the left
brain a road map to orient you to the 'lay of the land.' This puts
you in a position of being a strong, caring leader, where you can
steward your 'overeating parts' through the growth process
Softening shame, judgment, and self blame. When you struggle with any kind of compulsiveness with food, it's easy to feel frightened by it. Because it feels so scary, there's often a lot of self blame and frustration – a feeling of, “Why can't I get my food under control?” But in truth, it's not your fault – there's something very tender underneath the food: some vulnerability that's asking for understanding and care. You move from the head to the heart to soften this self blame and bring in compassion for your vulnerability.
THE KEY TAKEAWAY: Moving into the heart brings softness,
compassion, and forgiveness for the ways you've cared for
overwhelming pain, confusion or stress with food. It activates the
right brain, where you move from 'control and contain' to 'tend and
befriend.' This softness is what allows the pain underneath your
'overeating parts' to feel safe enough to be touched, grieved, and
Building resilience. When you combine insight with compassion, rather than feeling like a victim of food, you feel empowered: like you're standing in your strongest self. There's a feeling of emergence and new life: step by step, with the support and help I need, I can get there. To do this, you bring in play, ease and support. This reduces the load on the limbic system, moves energy, and creates space for the growth process.
THE KEY TAKEAWAY: Playfulness and distance soften the anxiety, stress, and urgency about needing to fix your relationship with food. There's more space to care for the tenderness that arises, and it feels less personal – you feel less victimized by the food. The perfectionism about needing to get it 'right' softens, and food doesn't feel so life or death. It becomes something that feels workable and possible, with room for trial and error.
If there can be distance in how you look at your relationship with food, and a space of compassion and listening, food can be something you're relating to, rather than stuck in.
That's the idea of the Heart of Food - rather than looking at food as something you need to fix, fueling a sense of urgency, you'll learn how to relate through the heart, where there's light at end of the tunnel.
Here's more about what's included and how it works:
Here's what you'll receive:
Dates for the Q&A webinars through 2018:
How it works:
You can learn more about the course and sample the videos below. You can also hear from former students about how our courses have helped them. Not sure if The Heart of Food is the right fit for you? Please email us with any questions - we want you to get the right fit for you.
"My time with Karly's kind, encouraging, occasionally self-deprecating, humorous and loving voice was very healing for me. She gave me practical tools, planted phrases for showing myself support, lent tips for building a supportive environment around me, and
led me in a very inviting and non-threatening way through a kinder re-framing of my developmental wounds.
[Karly's] combination of maternal warmth, self-kindness, down-to-earth humor, and theoretically-grounded cognitive behavioral approach delivers a holistic and intelligent healing experience, different from those who gloss over attention-starved psychic wounds with repressive positive thinking and irritating generalizations.
Karly's focus on integrative thinking, embracing ambivalence, acknowledging pain, caressing neglected parts of my psyche, and 'being the adult in the room' provided an encompassing platform that helped me immensely."
- Jenn Lindsay, USA
I’m Karly, a teacher, writer, poet and your guide through your course. I help people foster a change of heart towards their food struggles and their humanity - to uncover the deeper story that is being writ through their journey.
Growing human(kind)ness arose out of my own journey, which included 20 years of multiple eating disorders, shame about my sensitivity, and a life long initiation through depression. In bearing witness to my suffering and the suffering of others, I’ve listened deeply to eating disorders, to map their underpinnings and respect and bow to the beauty that lies underneath.
I write poems, books and courses, teach classes, work 1 on 1 with folks, and speak to groups.
I offer this teaching in service to individuals who yearn for healing, to my longing for a more relational, connected world, and to our greater culture. Underneath all my work lies a love of the human heart.
I live in Austin, Texas with my husband Patrick and our family, two dogs, a frisky cat, lots of dust bunnies, and beautiful trees. I love good stories, good music, good food, good words, and long walks.
"Best money I've ever spent. Seriously. Nothing about my food issues has ever made sense before - - until now.
My thinking is changing a little every day, and your teachings are a balm to my soul. I often find myself weeping because you "get me." And you are right; the material is so deep and life-changing that I desire to go over it again and again.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart, Karly."
- Cindy, USA