The Heart of Food is our foundational support program to soften anxiety, connect with your heart, and bring more ease into your relationship with food.
Where people often get stuck:
When you struggle with overeating, binge eating or have a painful relationship with food, there can be so much anxiety about what or how to eat. You can feel a painful lack of self trust – how do I trust myself to have a healthy relationship with food when I've never had a 'normal' relationship?
The relationship you have with food can start to color everything , seeping out to filter how you see yourself – your whole being.
This can create frustration, shame, and urgency – a feeling of, “I need to fix this now.” It can lead to feelings of stuckness, where you feel trapped in helplessness and collapse.
The key to healing:
One of the keys to getting unstuck is healing your relationship with food: healing the relationship you have with what you're struggling with.
I've found three things that help shift this relationship, what
you'll learn in The Heart of Food:
Understanding the primary emotions and needs that drive food 'stuff.' There are a few primary emotions and key ways we use food to self soothe, care for stress, or to soften feelings of overwhelm. When you learn how some of these basic drives work and why you get stuck, you can soften the blame that says, “It's all my fault.”
THE KEY TAKEAWAY: Gaining insight into what's going on
underneath the food is grounding and calming. It gives the left
brain a road map to orient you to the 'lay of the land.' This puts
you in a position of being a strong, caring leader, where you can
steward your 'overeating parts' through the growth process
Softening shame, judgment, and self blame. When you struggle with any kind of compulsiveness with food, it's easy to feel frightened by it. Because it feels so scary, there's often a lot of self blame and frustration – a feeling of, “Why can't I get my food under control?” But in truth, it's not your fault – there's something very tender underneath the food: some vulnerability that's asking for understanding and care. You move from the head to the heart to soften this self blame and bring in compassion for your vulnerability.
THE KEY TAKEAWAY: Moving into the heart brings softness,
compassion, and forgiveness for the ways you've cared for
overwhelming pain, confusion or stress with food. It activates the
right brain, where you move from 'control and contain' to 'tend and
befriend.' This softness is what allows the pain underneath your
'overeating parts' to feel safe enough to be touched, grieved, and
Building resilience. When you combine insight with compassion, rather than feeling like a victim of food, you feel empowered: like you're standing in your strongest self. There's a feeling of emergence and new life: step by step, with the support and help I need, I can get there. To do this, you bring in play, ease and support. This reduces the load on the limbic system, moves energy, and creates space for the growth process.
THE KEY TAKEAWAY: Playfulness and distance soften the anxiety, stress, and urgency about needing to fix your relationship with food. There's more space to care for the tenderness that arises, and it feels less personal – you feel less victimized by the food. The perfectionism about needing to get it 'right' softens, and food doesn't feel so life or death. It becomes something that feels workable and possible, with room for trial and error.
If there can be distance in how you look at your relationship with food, and a space of compassion and listening, food can be something you're relating to, rather than stuck in.
That's the idea of the Heart of Food - rather than looking at food as something you need to fix, fueling a sense of urgency, you'll learn how to relate through the heart, where there's light at end of the tunnel.
Here's more about what's included and how it works:
Here's what you'll receive:
- 28 video lessons to watch or listen to as many times as you like
- A downloadable PDF transcript of the videos that you can read, mark up, highlight, and write on
- 5 practices you can use in your daily relationship with food
- Recordings of 5 months of Q&A webinars where folks asked questions about food
- Invitations to special Q&A webinars with Karly - these special, invitation only Q&A coaching calls are for folks who've bought Karly's courses. They're held two to three times throughout the year and are a chance to ask questions, connect with others, and receive support. You receive a year's worth of these Q&As with The Heart of Food.
You can learn more about the course and sample the videos below. You can also hear from former students about how our courses have helped them. Not sure if The Heart of Food is the right fit for you? Please email us with any questions - we want you to get the right fit for you.
"My time with Karly's kind, encouraging, occasionally self-deprecating, humorous and loving voice was very healing for me. She gave me practical tools, planted phrases for showing myself support, lent tips for building a supportive environment around me, and
led me in a very inviting and non-threatening way through a kinder re-framing of my developmental wounds.
[Karly's] combination of maternal warmth, self-kindness, down-to-earth humor, and theoretically-grounded cognitive behavioral approach delivers a holistic and intelligent healing experience, different from those who gloss over attention-starved psychic wounds with repressive positive thinking and irritating generalizations.
Karly's focus on integrative thinking, embracing ambivalence, acknowledging pain, caressing neglected parts of my psyche, and 'being the adult in the room' provided an encompassing platform that helped me immensely."
- Jenn Lindsay, USA
I’m Karly, your guide through the course. I help highly sensitive people who struggle with shame, sugar, overdoing and perfectionism. My approach helps you create a more compassionate relationship with yourself so you can experience more rest, play and power; connection, joy, and self trust.
There is a deeper story that lives underneath the surface story of your struggle, and this story is both more true and more merciful. It's this story that I help midwife into being. There is so much beauty - and so much tenderness - that lives in and underneath our struggles.
Growing human(kind)ness, the name of my website, means to soften self criticism and shame, and to claim the wholeness that is our birthright. This work arose from two things - from my own experience with 20 years of multiple eating disorders, chronic depression and anxiety, and from bearing witness to others' stories of challenge, growth and rebirth.
I teach classes, write books and courses, and speak to groups.
I offer this teaching in service to all who feel the shame of human stumbling and who yearn for wholeness, and to my desire for a more compassionate and connected world. Underneath all my work you'll find a love for the human heart and its resilience, depth and courage.
I live in Austin, Texas with my husband Patrick and our family, two dogs, a very frisky cat, lots of dust bunnies, and beautiful oak trees. I love good stories, good music, good food, good words, lifting heavy things, and long walks.
Frequently Asked Questions
"Best money I've ever spent. Seriously. Nothing about my food issues has ever made sense before - - until now.
My thinking is changing a little every day, and your teachings are a balm to my soul. I often find myself weeping because you "get me." And you are right; the material is so deep and life-changing that I desire to go over it again and again.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart, Karly."
- Cindy, USA
StartDay 1 - Bring love into your relationship with food (3:55)
StartDay 2 - Everything belongs (5:15)
StartDay 3 - The caring presence (5:47)
PreviewDay 4 - The deep belonging to be found in failure (5:08)
StartDay 5 - Expanding the field and opening to possibility (4:48)
PreviewDay 6 - Moving from the head to the heart (4:58)
StartDay 7 - Softening into the vulnerability that lies under frustration (7:54)
PreviewDay 8 - Inviting in the "unlived life" - befriending the grief underneath judgement (7:14)
StartDay 9 - Translating insight into behavioral change (7:51)
StartDay 10 - Opening to gratitude (5:57)
StartDay 11 - The love that brings in "no" and rest (5:08)
StartDay 12 - The waiting time - what's born in the silence (6:16)
StartDay 13 - Softening the urgency to fix (7:24)
StartDay 14 - Softening resistance with connection (6:41)